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Tuesday, November 10, 2015

On this article: 

These lines ring true to me:
"You don't choose who you're attracted to, but you definitely choose who you fall in love with and (more importantly) who you stay in love with"
"Our society places a lot of emphasis on feelings. We are taught that we should always follow our feelings and do whatever makes us happy. But feelings are very fickle and fleeting."

But what I think is missing is this: that the key to any long-lasting relationship, or at least, the starting premise, should be that deliberate choice to love YOURSELF first (which is not synonymous to being selfish).

A relevant deeply profound quote I think is that by Paulo Coelho in his book, Eleven Minutes:

"They make the other person responsible for their happiness and blame them for their possible unhappiness. They are either euphoric because something marvelous has happened or depressed because something unexpected has just ruined everything."

So choose to fall in love, and stay in love with yourself first, because it's easier to love another when you feel loved within. And dictate how you want to feel, not the other way around.